tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post113832579233819819..comments2023-10-26T06:40:19.537-04:00Comments on Certainly Not Cool Enough To Blog: Fragile. Handle with care.msfitzitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17174138130763427353noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-1138397897884029672006-01-27T16:38:00.000-05:002006-01-27T16:38:00.000-05:00I could have written this exactly one year ago. My...I could have written this exactly one year ago. My Thomas' first birthday/anniversary was in March 2004 and I was feeling everything you are feeling. I was convinced I was completely losing my mind. I kept reliving and replaying everything in my mind, the "happy" days and weeks leading up to my labor, then the labor itself, and the horror of how it all went tragically wrong. I'm sure I had post-traumatic stress disorder. The first anniversary,and the time leading up to it, is incredibly difficult. I think what you are going through is normal. You aren't going insane. But it was dealing with the first anniversary that made me seek out a therapist, because I couldn't handle the feelings and emotions on my own anymore and I had no one else to turn to. I'm not saying that is what you need. But the next few weeks will be intense and difficult so try and be gentle with yourself. And we will be here for you. (((hugs)))Anam Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00690668561895791338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-1138387886034383062006-01-27T13:51:00.000-05:002006-01-27T13:51:00.000-05:00I second what Bronwyn has said -- the first year i...I second what Bronwyn has said -- the first year is just so hard and the first birthday is a whopper. I will be thinking of you and your sweet Thomas (((((((hugs)))))))katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-1138378190116566092006-01-27T11:09:00.000-05:002006-01-27T11:09:00.000-05:00The first anniversary was really intense for me, s...The first anniversary was really intense for me, so I can completely understand your apprehension. It really did start to get "easier" after the birthday passed. I think once you're past the "A year ago we were doing this, thinking that, feeling this way" the intense pain starts to ease a bit. (((Big hug)))Ann Howellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02330639889849276318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-1138372097871888162006-01-27T09:28:00.000-05:002006-01-27T09:28:00.000-05:00It's still so unreal that this is how your first y...It's still so unreal that this is how your first year after Thomas' birth has been spent - running from flashbacks and nightmares - instead of messy diapers and sleepless nights. As you've told me, it <I>will</I> get easier with time ... and maybe what you're feeling now is a temporary setback.<BR/><BR/>And, you most definitely are NOT insane. If you know nothing else, please know and trust in that. ((((HUGS))))Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10334304440258785910noreply@blogger.com