tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post3147867159602805579..comments2023-10-26T06:40:19.537-04:00Comments on Certainly Not Cool Enough To Blog: A revelation, courtesy of someone else's mindmsfitzitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17174138130763427353noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-51263523636726548562007-06-16T18:29:00.000-04:002007-06-16T18:29:00.000-04:00Oh what a wise blogger she must be! ;)Seriously t...Oh what a wise blogger she must be! ;)<BR/><BR/>Seriously though - I'm so glad I made sense to someone!Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00433861868469484062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-35055108837703608732007-06-15T01:21:00.000-04:002007-06-15T01:21:00.000-04:00thanks for your message. i may someday get to a pl...thanks for your message. i may someday get to a place where i can be around preggo friends. immersion...hmm...sounds scary!wannabe momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00975160438211356349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-26237467358682204482007-06-14T12:27:00.000-04:002007-06-14T12:27:00.000-04:00((HUGS)) to you sweetie!((HUGS)) to you sweetie!Momma Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10992490890759462003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-87589995518693733822007-06-14T10:51:00.000-04:002007-06-14T10:51:00.000-04:00I will tell you that the complete loss of fertilit...I will tell you that the complete loss of fertility via menopause has done nothing to lessen the pain of hearing about other perfectly planned families, for me, anyway. I doubt that particular pain will ever go away, no matter how irrational it may be. It's certainly a lot less potent than it was at the beginning and it does help to try to remember (as a couple of people pointed out) that their situation has nothing to do with me... but the pang is still there. It's just another in a long list of things to get used to post baby-loss, I suppose.Ann Howellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02330639889849276318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-11222805619890260662007-06-13T17:27:00.000-04:002007-06-13T17:27:00.000-04:00If I'm being honest with myself, I wish that every...If I'm being honest with myself, I wish that everyone I knew was done with the whole having kids thing. I would just like everyone in my life to be over that point in their lives. It's not that I'm not happy for them. I just hate all the feelings it brings up in me. <BR/><BR/>The thing I think I still have trouble with is trying to remember that it's not about me. That even though those words bring up all kinds of fears and worries in me, no one wants to hear about those fears and worries. I have to deal with them by myself.Roxannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08915721334800247580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-61612866302633058302007-06-12T22:56:00.000-04:002007-06-12T22:56:00.000-04:00thank you, thank you for writing about this. i cou...thank you, thank you for writing about this. i couldn't write in my blog about my best friend getting pregnant 2 months after the twins died, because she reads my blog. and her pregnancy wasn't exactly planned. and she's on her 4th husband. but i digress, and i shouldn't judge about her 'deservedness.' anyway, we had a discussion slash crying fest and although we understand each other i'm still a bit miffed about the timing but in the end, i don't wish her any harm and i am very happy for her but so very sad for me. <BR/><BR/>yet <I>another</I> friend told me this weekend that she's pregnant after 5 years of trying. of course i'm happy for her! but it seriously bummed me out to the point of insomnia the night she told me.<BR/><BR/>as far as pregnant women friends go, do you avoid them? i do, but only because i don't want to hurt.wannabe momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00975160438211356349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-29153894136201686062007-06-12T17:38:00.000-04:002007-06-12T17:38:00.000-04:00Sounds about right to me.Ruby, that just blows. I ...Sounds about right to me.<BR/><BR/>Ruby, that just blows. I am sorry you seem to be surrounded by smug and inconsiderate women at work. Maybe you should think about bringing in something very good and very smelly to eat for lunch. That might repay (B) in kind. :)Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-70953076170555116482007-06-12T17:24:00.000-04:002007-06-12T17:24:00.000-04:00Great thought. "It's all about me," of course! The...Great thought. "It's all about me," of course! <BR/><BR/>The ill feelings (I STILL have after 6 years) aren't toward the pregnant person. They're about me.<BR/><BR/>And guilt...well, I don't really feel guilty. I guess I should, I just don't. If I verbalized to said pregnant person how I felt about their "Blessed Event" then, I guess I would feel guilty afterward. <BR/><BR/>A few weeks ago a woman I know who is due next month (I'll call her A) came to speak to a woman (B) sitting directly in front of me (I mean about a foot away.) So A, squealing with pleasure congratulates B on her pregnancy. It seems B is eleven weeks. They were both so overwhelmed with joy and giggling and rubbing bellies that...I almost threw up. REALLY! Literally. I became physically ill. The dizziness, nausea, the whole ten yards. I had to leave or would have thrown up right on them.<BR/><BR/>I never did feel guilty.Rubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10098941764877979227noreply@blogger.com