tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post4884203781452413159..comments2023-10-26T06:40:19.537-04:00Comments on Certainly Not Cool Enough To Blog: The answermsfitzitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17174138130763427353noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-58915941283438605772007-10-10T11:13:00.000-04:002007-10-10T11:13:00.000-04:00I don't think the ache ever totally goes away. Fi...I don't think the ache ever totally goes away. Fifteen years later and I still ache to hold my first daughter. Generally it is more around the anniversary of her birth/death that the feelings are just so intense and close to the surface that it's impossible to hold back tears when I see or hold a new baby. (Older babies don't seem to set off the emotions as much any more).<BR/><BR/>I think there's something about the way we are wired as women - generally speaking. Our arms were created in such a way as to be able to cradle a baby and I think our body reacts accordingly when we see one - whether we've experienced loss or not.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. The inbetween days are better for me now. Time is a healer.CappyPrincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00586871115485250280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-57748910307731961452007-10-09T20:45:00.000-04:002007-10-09T20:45:00.000-04:00This is the kind of post that makes me feel that o...This is the kind of post that makes me feel that other people have suffered losses that are so great and so painful that my own losses are small and pointless by comparison.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08315267454529454063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-72035846431365627972007-10-09T16:47:00.000-04:002007-10-09T16:47:00.000-04:00This grief thing is a real bear. But as you mentio...This grief thing is a real bear. But as you mentioned, I guess the flipside is the incredible love we feel for our children, whether they are still with us or not.<BR/><BR/>I understand the ache of your empty arms; I hope they are filled soon.Ann Howellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02330639889849276318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-62667424035006984982007-10-08T21:26:00.000-04:002007-10-08T21:26:00.000-04:00You are really helping me to understand grief. I ...You are really helping me to understand grief. I don't mean I "understand" understand...I definitely haven't walked in your shoes. But you give me great insight so that I can try to understand and not be such a jackass and say hurtful things.<BR/><BR/>Also, I didn't mean to imply that you aren't happy. I definitely recognize that people (me) use their blogs for certain emotions but that doesn't mean that is all that person is.BigP's Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07124157582246972372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-70708833479969312822007-10-08T20:46:00.000-04:002007-10-08T20:46:00.000-04:00Bless your heart. This post touched me to the cor...Bless your heart. This post touched me to the core. I never held my baby but I imagined what it would have felt like. When I hold my friend's baby who was due the same week as I was, I think of my angel. It breaks my heart. That is what it would have felt like.<BR/><BR/>HUGS over and over again to you tonight.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14570018200281339937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-41060394315648828992007-10-08T16:29:00.000-04:002007-10-08T16:29:00.000-04:00It doesn't just stop at holding a baby. It is the...It doesn't just stop at holding a baby. It is there in every ultrasound, every movement. I find that the hardest part is looking at my littlest boy and knowing that he wouldn't be here if my girls hadn't died. It's a bittersweet feeling that surfaces again and again. I always wonder what they would have been like...would they look like K, or develop the same way? Those are the questions that we can never have the chance to answer. I hope that the memories of holding Thomas that lurk in your mind are sweet, even if they were way too short...and that they aren't so hard that they bring you down as you hold your future bubs.Kathy McChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03173765251704625998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-89690325840994720182007-10-08T13:21:00.000-04:002007-10-08T13:21:00.000-04:00"I've heard a million older women with someone els..."I've heard a million older women with someone else's newborn in their arms say, "Oh, this takes me back! I can remember when my daughter/son was this size". It's no different for me. Why should it be?"<BR/><BR/>It shouldn't be any different for you, Kristin. My youngest is nearly three and I've not had a chance to hold many babies since he was a baby. Just recently I got ahold of a friend's new baby and it took me straight back to when MY babies were that size.<BR/><BR/>Mothers will always remember holding their babies. <BR/><BR/>(((hugs)))Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10741217614394462527noreply@blogger.com