tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post5251870060487314398..comments2023-10-26T06:40:19.537-04:00Comments on Certainly Not Cool Enough To Blog: I just wanted some plantsmsfitzitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17174138130763427353noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-55276330519652672982007-05-04T20:31:00.000-04:002007-05-04T20:31:00.000-04:00You think you're horrible for feeling this way? Ha...You think you're horrible for feeling this way? Hardly.<BR/><BR/>You ache and hurt, like so many of us with empty arms do. You miss your son. And, you long for another. <BR/><BR/>That vulnerable, tender spot on your soul will always be there. It's awful that moments like yours in the nursery as so difficult and confusing. And, they're just not fair. = (Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10334304440258785910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-23575329177312734392007-05-04T17:34:00.000-04:002007-05-04T17:34:00.000-04:00I HATE when it hits me at a time I least expect it...I HATE when it hits me at a time I least expect it. Who would think of a little infant out getting plants? Not me. Not that they shouldn't be there, I just don't associate the two. Will there ever be a time it doesn't sting? Does it become so ingrained in us that we always feel it?BigP's Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07124157582246972372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-67221331464220668402007-05-04T17:10:00.000-04:002007-05-04T17:10:00.000-04:00Not horrible. Not unthinkable. And I do understand...Not horrible. Not unthinkable. <BR/><BR/>And I do understand how you can be both shaken to the core and OK. Hoping the shift in the universe is permanent.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-91917196002522060402007-05-04T12:21:00.000-04:002007-05-04T12:21:00.000-04:00I don't think it's self pity, paranoia or anger, j...I don't think it's self pity, paranoia or anger, just sorrow.<BR/><BR/>I'm okay too but...<BR/><BR/>I STILL feel the same way. Yes, I have a five year old. Silly, I know but old habits die hard. Just an infertility (or an; I should have MY baby in MY arms) side effect.<BR/><BR/>Still, we're okay :)Rubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10098941764877979227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-27723416399999279322007-05-04T08:07:00.000-04:002007-05-04T08:07:00.000-04:00I agree with all above.It's not horrible at all, o...I agree with all above.<BR/><BR/>It's not horrible at all, or at least I'm going to say it's not because I certainly do the same thing. It hurts unbelievably to be innocently out in public and faced with what we wanted so much, and so deserved. It makes you feel so desperately lonely. <BR/><BR/>((((HUGS))))Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03887313952590843057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-24890333767490002572007-05-04T02:14:00.000-04:002007-05-04T02:14:00.000-04:00I really understand where you're coming from.... ...I really understand where you're coming from.... and it's not horrible. xMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00433861868469484062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-85628175683580391222007-05-03T23:37:00.000-04:002007-05-03T23:37:00.000-04:00Actually, since I live in my head and no one else ...Actually, since I live in my head and no one else knows what goes on in there, it doesn't really sound horrible at all. Because if you ever heard my inner dialogue, well, THEN you would be horrified. Refusal to look in their direction? Not bad, not bad at all!<BR/><BR/>I still feel that way. I can't look at other babies. Or if I do, I feel such an overwhelming surge of jealousy towards the parents it is almost blinding. Which is a weird reaction when I have my 3 1/2 month old strapped to my chest. But there you have it.<BR/><BR/>And I am happy, too, I really am.<BR/><BR/>So, I understand where you are coming from with the happiness mixed with the breathtaking sorrow. Before, I had no idea that a person could exist in both of those planes at the same time.delphihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07529670960180261467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972140.post-70441809474787449562007-05-03T20:46:00.000-04:002007-05-03T20:46:00.000-04:00I completely understand how you can be taken back ...I completely understand how you can be taken back by a moment like you described, and yet still be "okay." Those kinds of encounters will sting for a long time (maybe forever, I don't know yet), even after you bring a baby home, and yet you will still be okay. It's a strange reality to explain, but I understand.<BR/><BR/>I pray this turn toward hope, and a new lightness, goes on and on for you.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05528541804521203406noreply@blogger.com