Thursday, September 27, 2007

Sorrow upon sorrow

Sweet, wonderful, kind and compassionate Lisa (More Than My Share) lost her battle with cancer on Tuesday evening, surrounded by her husband and family. She miscarried two dearly loved babies in 2005, then struggled with infertility before finding out she had lymphoma late this spring.

More than her share indeed.

Thanks so much to Catherine for posting this message from Lisa's husband Greg, who now faces a life without a woman so many of us came to know and love through her words, her humour and her endless support.

When they put trying to have a baby on the back burner while she underwent chemo, she sent me a giant pack of OPKs she'd bought and hadn't had a chance to use. I used them the cycle I conceived the twins. She didn't know that. I never told her. When things went bad for us this summer I shut down and went into hibernation mode. There were so many e-mails of support I didn't respond to, and hers, God bless her, was one of them.

I'm just sick that I didn't tell her how much it meant that she reached out to me while she was in the throws of something so terrifying and, ultimately, so much bigger than what I was going through.

Even now, I'm wasting space talking about myself - assuaging my own guilt.

Lisa, I will miss you dreadfully. I'm sorry we found each other under the circumstances that we did, but I'm grateful and blessed to have had a chance to know you and to be carried along by your support and friendship for as long as I did.

God's speed, my friend.

6 comments:

Denise said...

That is so sad...life is so unfair at times. Many prayers to her husband and family.

Rosepetal said...

Huge hugs to you Kristin.

I didn't know Lisa well, but having gone what she went through, I feel that she would have understood your shutdown hibernation.

Aurelia said...

I'll bet she understood perfectly. And it's okay to be a little selfish and think of our own emotions when tragedy strikes.

Take care, and let us know how it goes with the memorial meeting with the church. If your priest isn't sure what to do, tell him to call the diocese head office. Other parishes hold these and if he sends out a message, they may send him back a bunch of ideas.

SaraS-P said...

NO! I am crying. I wondered how she was doing. I never worried we would lose her. Life is undeed unfair.

M said...

It's just so very, very wrong...

hugs x

Missing said...

I just thought I'd post a note to let you know I was thinking of you.
I hope you doing okay...well, as much as to be expected. I can't imagine.
*hugs*
and I still remember...