Wednesday, November 26, 2008


A year ago today a friend I never knew outside the virtual confines of my computer screen died suddenly just a few weeks after giving birth to her second child.

She died. Just like that.

There is a widower suffering the anguish of unthinkable grief and no doubt clinging to his two motherless children for dear life tonight, and I feel selfish taking up even the tiniest amount of space talking about how her death affected me when I know for a fact that their sorrow is utterly matchless.

So all I'm going to say - because for some reason it feels important for me to say it - is that I haven't forgotten her or the kindnesses she showed me.

I will never forget.


Maya, Sam and Sarah's Mom said...

The kindness of strangers has comforted me on many sad occasions in the past, especially after I lost my babies, and when my mother and sister died. Sometimes their appearance seemed so fortuitous; other times the timing was so perfect it made me wonder if perhaps they were guardian angels in physical form?

Sorry to hear that this woman won't get to be there when her child grows up--but her child will hopefully be a comfort to the father in his grief.

And now, because of your short post, we'll all remember her. Prayers going up for her family, and for you. {{{{{Hugs}}}}}

loribeth said...

Oh my gosh, that is so sad! It's so nice of you to honour her memory in this way.

You know, it's a shock for people to realize that babies die... but I think it's even more of a shock to realize that North American women STILL die during childbirth or from its after-effects. :(

Julia said...

It's not selfish, and it doesn't take away from their sorrow. You being affected only means that she touched you, that she was important to you too. I think it's important for them to know how many other people knew and loved her, and miss her too.

I am sorry for the loss of this wonderful woman.

cjzben said...

I have been thinking of them too, she was a lovely woman and my heart goes out to her husband and her sweet little ones and the rest of her family .