So I've been giving the whole what shall we call ourselves? thing some thought. And here's what I've come up with:
Perinatal infant loss and/or miscarriage survivor - PILAMS
Miscarriage and/or infant loss survivor - MAILS
Parent of little lost angel(s) - POLLA
Parent in mourning - PIM
What a depressing exercise. And fruitless too, since people will always want to know more than you're comfortable telling, and will still always look at you with shock and horror no matter what pretty little name you use to tell them that your child has died.
But stiil, pim kind of rolls off the tongue nicely, no? And it would be ever so amusing to answer, "No, I'm a pim" the next time someone asks if I have any kids.
Heh heh heh.