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Wednesday, July 23, 2008
What would YOU do?
I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know.
Is it a head versus heart issue; by that I mean, is your head saying one things and your heart saying another? Sometimes when I can't decide, I ask myself what I will think of each decision as my life comes to an end? Which decision might cause me to feel sorrow?
I'd need more information. Is the exploratory surgery likely to be risky (with your past history)? If you don't have the surgery are you going to practice birth control (yes, I know I am way too in your face here) and if you do have the surgery does your Dr think they may find something that needs to be addressed?
The last question would seem the most important as you can obviously conceive without any help and I wouldn't want to see you go through another loss if there is something structural that the Dr. thinks is causing miscarriages. I want to ask if you had any karyotypes done on your twin pregnancy but that just seems too stark a question (oops, too late).
If you are still going to try to conceive, I think you need to have the surgery (otherwise it just seems like there is too much risk to you of trying to have another baby).
And is your choice here about whether to try and have biological children or any children at all?
I guess I am just as concerned about your physical health as about the emotional toll all of this takes.
I don't know anything other than I am an incredibly invasive, bordering on obnoxious, personality and that I wish I could change things for you.
I'd probably drink way too much alcohol, eat a pound or more of chocolate and call in sick to work so I could get a pedicure and then watch TLC for hours on end.
Anything to avoid having to decide :(
I loves you, Koko! I know you'll make the right decision.
10 comments:
Where is that magic 8 ball when you need it, eh?
*hugs*
((hugs)) The magic 8 ball isn't a *bad* idea. ;-)
Sometimes it really seems almost impossible to choose a path...
I don't know about you, but sometimes I miss the days as a child when my parents just told me what to do.
I wish you luck with whatever you choose.
Why choose anything? Maybe just sit with it?
Is it a head versus heart issue; by that I mean, is your head saying one things and your heart saying another? Sometimes when I can't decide, I ask myself what I will think of each decision as my life comes to an end? Which decision might cause me to feel sorrow?
I'd do it and never look back. But that's just me, I'm a leap first look later gal.
But it's never that easy is it? What if a friend came to you with the situation, what would you tell her?
If I were in your situation, I guess I'd do it.
But, it's easy for me to say that when I'm not the one faced with the difficult decision.
Maybe do as Terryn suggested and try looking at it that way.
P.S. That wasn't much help, was it?
(((HUGS)))
I'd need more information. Is the exploratory surgery likely to be risky (with your past history)? If you don't have the surgery are you going to practice birth control (yes, I know I am way too in your face here) and if you do have the surgery does your Dr think they may find something that needs to be addressed?
The last question would seem the most important as you can obviously conceive without any help and I wouldn't want to see you go through another loss if there is something structural that the Dr. thinks is causing miscarriages. I want to ask if you had any karyotypes done on your twin pregnancy but that just seems too stark a question (oops, too late).
If you are still going to try to conceive, I think you need to have the surgery (otherwise it just seems like there is too much risk to you of trying to have another baby).
And is your choice here about whether to try and have biological children or any children at all?
I guess I am just as concerned about your physical health as about the emotional toll all of this takes.
I don't know anything other than I am an incredibly invasive, bordering on obnoxious, personality and that I wish I could change things for you.
DinoD
I'd probably drink way too much alcohol, eat a pound or more of chocolate and call in sick to work so I could get a pedicure and then watch TLC for hours on end.
Anything to avoid having to decide :(
I loves you, Koko! I know you'll make the right decision.
xoxoxoxo
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