Friday, August 03, 2007

outside looking in

I know it shouldn't, but while I'm sitting here waiting to miscarry my 4th and my 5th child, this bugs the living hell out of me.

26 comments:

Shelli said...

sigh.... I saw that too and had a similar reaction.

New reader to your blog... I am so sorry for your recent news.

r_is_moody said...

Kristen I had just read that story and told dh it might be nice if God would throw some of that blessing our way.

It just really sucks that life is so unfair. I'm so sorry.

Lori said...

Of course it bothers you! It bothers me and I have living children. For me, it is that in spite of all of their pious talk, and thankfulness to God, there still seems to be something smug in their words. There is something so untouched about their lives, and even their faith. But maybe that is just me being really mean and petty. Probably.

I'm so sorry for this most recent loss, and of course, all of them. I'm so, so sorry.

Beruriah said...

Yes to all of this. I don't think Lori's being mean and petty at all in her evaluation.

I wish there were more to do and say for you than I'm sorry, and I think of you so often.

niobe said...

And why shouldn't it bother you? It's just another reminder that life seems not just unfair, but so incredibly unfair that it takes your breath away.

Julia said...

The thing the article doesn't say is that they are having that many kids because they believe they have to have them to outnumber the heathens (that's us). So yeah, it's hard not to take that a bit personally.
And I love what Lori said-- smug and untouched. Exactly.

SaraS-P said...

Oh, how could anyone not be annoyed by this?

Heather said...

I live in the same state as them. I hate them. That is such a strong word, but I really do. And that makes me sad.

Mad Mommy said...

I think Jim Bob and Michelle must be siblings or something. Seriously. And do you think Joy-Anna and Johannah get mixed up if their parents say their names too fast? Although I suppose people this ignorant would not be prone to fast-talking.

K, I am so sorry about these new losses. You've been in my thoughts.

Monica said...

Ugghh, that story bothers me too. And they want to have more. I just feel in some ways maybe they don't appreciate the 17 they already have if they are already talking about increasing the brood. And yes, why do things come so easily to others and so hard to the rest?

Aurelia said...

They are irritating, especially because they say awful thing son their blog like birth control causes infertility, and God has blessed them, so THEY have children. As opposed to you know, us heathens. *eyeroll*

Rosepetal said...

I don't have any envy for this family, the parents or the children. I feel slightly nauseated by it all.

Granny said...

It doesn't seem fair, does it.

Patience said...

Ick....

(Jim Bob?? for real???)

Nica said...

Yeah. Outnumbering the heathens? NICE. Much more important than responsible parenting. (Who can be there for 17 kids? Who?)

missing_one said...

I've seen the documentary on this family a while back....they're weird.
The whole thing is eerie
How can you beat the odds that many times?

Renae said...

De-lurked a long time ago but haven't commented for a very long time either.

So I'm being extremely petty here too but I don't think their kids are cute at all.

I grew up as one of six, all of our names starting with R. It was awful. Plus, I never felt like I had any time alone with my parents - hence my crappy relationship with my mom now. We weren't as pious as the Duggar's though.

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.

missing_one said...

I had a feeling you might have a not so good day today so I thought I'd drop a note saying I'm sending EXTRA GOOD THOUGHTS
*Hugs*

kate said...

I'd better stop thinking about the Duggars or i will have to go to confession again.

Oops, too late!

My feelings are the same as lori's, though probably not expressed with such calm.

Sherry said...

Yes, nauseating is pretty much what I feel about this, too.

They're lucky. Very lucky that they've never been touched by what many of us parents have.

Maybe then they wouldn't be so hell-bent on outnumbering the supposed "heathens" in this world.

But, still, news stories like this are especially painful when you're experiencing something so sad and personal.

(((HUGS)))

Sherry said...

P.S. I'm certainly not implying I want anything bad to happen to the Duggars; however, they seem to have a bad case of head-up-the-ass, "nothing bad can happen to me" syndrome. Therefore, they're lucky.

Megan said...

I kinda want something bad to happen to the Duggars – at least Jim Bob. Did you see what they're feeding those poor kids? Velveeta and broccoli casserole ("yum, yum," say the Duggars) and Tater Tot casserole ("one of Daddy's favorites," they chirp.) Blech.

miraclebaby said...

OH my... stories like this are hard for me to read, too. As I sit at home crying in secret (even secret from my husband) because we can't have more kids, and I desperately, achingly want them. Maybe I'm ungrateful for the one I have. But seriously. Nobody can actually parent that many kids with quality. It just becomes a daycare at that point!

The only other story that bothers me more is one time (when we were trying to get pregnant with Dorothy) there was a story on Montel Williams that I saw the ad for. This woman had 13 KIDS just so she could abuse them... starve them, lock them up, beat them, you name it. I screamed at God and asked Him why.

You're not wrong for being bothered by this story. And I'm so sorry you're going through this right now.

Lori said...

Just wanted to say that I hope you are doing okay. And even as I write this, I know that of course, you are not okay.

One final thought on this subject and this family, that I hope might bring you at least a smile... I was reading through the ridiculous list of their children's "J" names. I mean, c'mon, Jinger with a "J"!! Isn't that pushing it?? Next it will be Jorge with a "J." Or maybe, they will just go ahead and name a kid Frank, but with a silent J on the front, "Jfrank". Why not?

The Town Criers said...

I think it bothers everyone. They're so eagerly thinking about the next one that you're like, "why don't you pause and appreciate this one." Focus on the miracle in front of you for a few weeks instead of immediately jumping into thoughts of the next one.

I am so sorry that you're going through this again.

Denise said...

Sending you a hug. I hope that family appreciates what they have and doesn't turn it into even more of a media circus than it already is.